14 reasons to never commit suicide
News background: According to China’s first suicide survey released in early December, China has become one of the countries with the highest suicide rate in the world.
Among people aged 15 to 34, suicide has become the “first killer”.
Suicide has become an important public health issue in China.
Mr. Wu Ganlin’s “Life Wisdom-Live Your Own Sunshine” is the first comprehensive life education reading book in China.
The book starts with a love of life, takes “never miss the only life” as its core, and uses “18 rules of survival for the sun that turns from weakness to strength” as methods to teach people how to meet the challenges of life.
The relevant chapter of “Overcoming the Temptation of Suicide at the Bottom of Life” has the best guiding significance for those who have lost their lives and are preparing to commit suicide.
Reason one: Maybe everything can be abandoned, but the faith in life cannot abandon suicide, and quite a few are teenagers.
The suicide of young people is often because they find that life is very different from their imagination. Therefore, whenever they are frustrated, they choose to commit suicide.
I am the kind of person who almost committed suicide because of disappointment in life.
That was the first year after graduating from college. When graduating, there was a lot of enthusiasm. After entering the society, I found that the dark side of society and other kinds of dissatisfaction were far beyond expectations.
The whole soul is surrounded by despair.
I embrace life with a fiery heart, but life gives me pots of cold water!
I want to be recognized for my talents, but I have no chance to show them!
I pursue love sincerely, but I can be a big hit!
Faced with these setbacks, I thought of suicide.
Unconsciously, I stepped on the railing . Life and death made a difference at this moment.
Finally, there was another voice in my heart, with unprecedented strength, I absolutely decided: “No, I have not seen the truth of life!
I can’t give in this way!
Sweating, I finally stopped the urge to jump to the next moment when I was about to let go.
It has been 18 years since he was rescued from the hand of death.
Above the age of 18, I have experienced more severe setbacks and difficulties than before, and I have seen a more serious dark side than I had seen, but I have truly experienced the splendor and glory of life.
Only then did I truly admit how stupid it would be if I gave up my life so easily!
As a person, I would like to tell those who are preparing to commit suicide because of frustration and pain: When faced with adversity in life, don’t give up your life anyway!
Maybe everything can be given up, but the belief in life cannot be given up. This is a person’s “bottom line” and the basic principle that everyone should protect most!
Reason two: The tragedy of “take it for granted” in various cases of suicide, “take it for granted” is the most common mistake.
They may think that what they have imagined is the truth of the matter; that the reason they think of is the correct truth.
If the media reports that after taking the college entrance examination, some young people ca n’t wait for the notice, they think they have n’t been accepted, and commit suicide in despair.
Unexpectedly, just after committing suicide, the admission book came!
Don’t underestimate the danger of taking for granted. Even successful people can lose their lives due to such mistakes.
When Man was 18, he went to take a test at the Royal School of Drama.
When she played less than a minute, the judges laughed and invited her to go down.
She felt that her dream had been completely shattered and she was going to commit suicide by jumping into the river.
I didn’t die just because I saw the river was dirty and I was afraid of serious death.
The next day, she knew she had passed.
What made her even more confronting was that the reason why the judges asked her to come down in such a short time was because it was so good to trim her at a glance, so she didn’t want to spend more time on the exam!
Bergman is a world-renowned movie star.Imagine if it wasn’t for the accidental reason that the river was dirty, she terminated the plan, and under the domination of “taken for granted” reasons, she would create an irreparable tragedy.
So please go out of “take it for granted” and don’t make such mistakes again.
Reason three: Do n’t be too hurry, it ‘s all “high-speed trains”
that force you to go on the road.
When the train starts, it is difficult to brake.
Some children, a little bit aggrieved, choose to commit suicide.
Before you understand what life is, you can easily end it at a young age.
There is another kind of person who adopts an extremely rapid suicide method, and immediately puts his ideas into action.
According to reports: 62% of suicides in China chose to take pesticides or rodenticides, and as a result there was no room for manoeuvre.
This is one of the important reasons for the high suicide rate in China.
My friend Mr. Xie, because he was aggrieved by his parents when he was young, he was about to commit suicide.
At the beginning, he walked to a large pond and walked into the pond without a word.
My head is full of imagining how my parents regret their sadness when they find themselves dead.
He walked step by step in the middle of the water, and death was getting closer and closer to him.
But as he gradually walked towards the middle, some subtle feelings appeared: first it was late at night, the cold water made him a bit intolerable, and then there were the shadows of trees around the pond, and the sound of insects . began to disperseOne’s attention, as well as those scenes of daytime play, all came to mind.
Imperceptibly, he stopped.
In the end, it was found that the idea of suicide had disappeared.
For many years, Mr. Xie has been a very successful entrepreneur.
At the time of this dangerous experience at the time, he still had a lingering fear, saying, “If I commit suicide in such an extreme way of eating pesticides, it is likely that you will not see this friend right now.
“Fourth reason: Don’t deify the” must-have “determination. In extreme cases, those who choose to commit suicide often think that they really” can’t live “and” must-have. ”
However, even this determination is not necessarily what you really want.
Perhaps, deep in your heart, you didn’t give up your faith in life, but you didn’t know it then.
This is the personal experience of my friend Mr. Yang: He fell in love with a young girl, and it was very painful without her.
I tried to commit suicide many times and thought that I would definitely commit suicide.
Just then, a friend invited him to visit Huangshan.
While climbing, his mind was full of the charming face of the girl and the pain he could not get from her.
Unconscious, he almost fell off the cliffs, but fortunately his friends held him by hand in time.
He was sweating coldly.
Suddenly he woke up, didn’t he always want to commit suicide?
Why do you still grab a friend’s arm between life and death?
-It turns out that in your bones, you still love life.
He rejoices that he has not betrayed his inner being these days.
Since then, there have been no thoughts of suicide.
Reason five: The suicide of someone who wants to leave a window is because of despair.
This despair is sometimes for yourself, sometimes for life and the world.
There is darkness and light in the world; there are peaks and valleys in life.
Even if you see more dark sides, it is not the whole world; even if the night is long, there will be a moment when the sun rises.
At this point, don’t shut out hope from now on-because hope is always there, you just don’t see it.
Zweig was one of the famous writers of the 20th century. He spent his whole life chanting love, life, justice and so on.
During World War II, he left Europe to Latin America.
Although he is far from the flames of war, the cruel scenes that have occurred around the world have increasingly destroyed his faith in humanity.In the end, he and his wife both committed suicide.
Before he died, he wrote a little testament expressing his despair for the world: “I, an impatient man, had to leave first.
“It didn’t take long for him to die. The end of World War II ended with justice over evil.
Zweig’s tragedy is actually the tragedy of many suicides.
The root cause of the tragedy was actually broken by his own words-“impatient”.
In the face of the gloom of society and the adversity of life, it does have a sense of despair.
It’s just a momentary feeling. If it is a kind of identification of life, it would be wrong.
You must leave a window to hope.
Reason 6: Success is not the current education of the “One-Bridge Bridge”
, often rushing children to a path of test-oriented education.
“Thousands of horses and horses walk the only wooden bridge”. Only advanced education is the only criterion for judging success.
This kind of thinking has caused great harm to children and families.
For example, in the past few years, there was a sensation in the country: Xu Li, a student of No. 4 Middle School in Jinhua City, Zhejiang Province, was reprimanded by his mother because he did not enter the “top ten”, he felt “aggrieved and depressed”, so he took oneThe wooden handle hammered her mother alive.
This is a family tragedy and, in fact, a huge social tragedy.
The well-known Taiwanese writer Qiong Yao, in addition to language, did not perform well in other subjects.
One day, when she only scored 20 points on the math test, the school gave her a “notice” and asked her to take it back and stamp her parents.
Late into the night, she plucked up the courage to take the notice and gave it to her mother.
The mother’s entire face went dark, and she was scolded.
She wrote a long letter to her mother in despair, committing suicide by taking poison.
Only a week later, he was rescued from the hand of death.
Later, she participated in the college entrance examination.
After hearing the news, she broke down.
She committed suicide again and was found in time.
But she has not given up her determination to let her fight again in the college entrance examination.
Unexpectedly, she took the second college entrance examination and she fell again!
Unexpectedly, her mother soon arranged and encouraged Qiong Yao to take the third exam.
Qiong Yao could not help but shout a big greeting.
But this time she made up her mind. She was very aware of her strengths and weaknesses and decided to concentrate on writing.
The parents finally fulfilled her pursuit.
From this moment, she began to truly pursue her career and eventually achieved enviable achievements.
Qiong Yao finally “killed” in his own capacity, but there are still so many young people who have not “killed”. Their dreams, happiness, career and even life are not buried on this “only wooden bridge”?
Therefore, it is an imminent event for both society and young people not to take college as the sole success criterion!
Reason 7: Many suicides, especially adolescents, who have thrown the “complete” rope far away have a problem: thinking of imperfections as impermissible and intolerable, this is “complete disease”.
”Complete disease” is actually a disease of the mind. Its biggest feature is the greedy pursuit of unrealistic things and they always want to wait until everything is done before they can be made.
When the world does not fulfill their full desires, they feel that the world is hell, and life is intolerable, so it is not worth living.
Introspection of my original suicidal impulse actually came from a “total illness” to a considerable extent.
It’s Pushkin’s poem: “Friend, don’t be sad, life is like this,” let me see my fatal mistake: Yeah, life is like this!
You blame life, in fact, it is your one-sided understanding of life!
It was because of seeing the harm caused by this “complete illness” that I woke up from that illusory life experience.
And from the original “map world” into the real world.
It became clear: “The real world is an imperfect world.But for those who dare to meet the challenge, the real world is exactly a rich world, always finding hope!
“Reason eight: God closes a door and hopes to open a certain door. As long as it is alive, all people will encounter life setbacks. This is not terrible.
The scary thing is that you have since decided that “everything is over”, “live and boring” and “dead”.
You may know: God closes one door, and maybe opens another.
But you certainly don’t know: that door, everyone needs to find it by themselves.
Especially when the front door was closed, it was even more important to persist in the belief in life. After graduating from junior high school, Madame Curie had no money and had to work as a tutor in a manor house.
Manor’s eldest son Casimir fell in love with her, and she fell in love with him.
When she was 19, they were about to get married.
However, Casimir’s parents thought that she did not match the type of money in her family, so she blocked everything.
What was even more unexpected was that Casimir had completely surrendered to his parents.
When she last talked to him for the last time, he was still weak and frightened.
This kind of ending in exchange for bitter love is a heavy blow to a 19-year-old girl.
When she realized that she couldn’t marry Casimir in the end, she really did not want to live. She almost ran into a dead end, and she also felt that “everything is over.”
However, she finally stood up from the pain and resolutely left the family, determined to go her own way.
She set off to study in Paris.
Later, she was fortunately combined with Curie.
The two worked hard to win the Nobel Prize.
No matter how frustrated, as long as you are alive, you may start over.
Maybe at the turning point where “everything is over”, Liu Anhuaming is waiting for you.
Reason 9: Predicting “Dead” and Rebirth For most people, career and love are the two most important aspects of a person.
Many people have suffered great setbacks in two ways, and they are born with the idea of rebirth.
When one day we lose those things that we don’t think we can continue to live without, some people just want to die.
At this time, you may really imagine yourself dying as a result, and then predict that you are “dead” and reborn.
This is a very effective mind conversion method.
Rollo May is a well-known existential psychologist who recorded a story in his famous book, “People Finding themselves”.
The owner is fairly involved in these two issues, but using this method of anticipating death and rebirth, finally gave up the idea of suicide: a woman firmly believes that unless someone loves her, she cannot live, and when she does notWhen I arrived, I thought of suicide.
She thought about this problem for several days, and suddenly thought: “If I committed suicide .” Then I suddenly thought: “After I committed suicide, in other ways, it is still a good thing-the sun still shinesWater still brings coolness to the body, and people are still busy at work.
“So suddenly she was open-she could still love others.
So she decided to live.
Reason # 10: Sublime Life-Think of those unfinished tasks. When we face adversity and suffer unexpected misfortunes, it is not surprising to have despair, but please remember that any fatality, adversity is not despair,Especially when you are a person with a mission, you should think about the mission that has not been completed, it can often save you from despair.
When Beethoven was 28 years old, the first symptoms of deafness appeared, and later both ears were hearing.
He was desperate, and wrote a famous Ellingen Hittite prescription in 1802, which frankly stated his mood of despair to commit suicide: “Whenever someone next to me hears the distant flute and IWhat a humiliation it is to hear “when not”, or when they hear the shepherd singing and I hear nothing!
This experience almost drove me into despair: I almost wanted to end my life!
”It’s art, and art deliberately calls me back from the line of death.
Ah, I don’t think I can leave the world until I have finished every movement I feel I need to compose!
“The unfinished art must be completed. Such a sense of mission saved him and at the same time gave him a correct understanding of his unfortunate fate.
And every 10 years, his music has a numerical improvement over the previous 10 years.
So please give yourself a mission, whether it is big or small, because it can give you strength.
Reason 11: Learn from people who have been reborn by suicide. You may not know that many people who have committed suicide but did not die often regret their original choices afterwards, and think that it is stupid to choose suicide!
The “Unprecedented” Cultural Revolution, a large number of famous intellectuals, such as Lao She and Fu Lei, embarked on the road of suicide. Xiao Qian, a famous translator, was fought into a “cowpen”, felt humiliated, swallowed sleeping pills, committed suicide, and was rescued.
Resurrected from the dead, facing his wife who cared for himself, he suddenly felt infinite regrets and made up his mind: no matter what kind of sufferings occur, he will never seek death again!
Thirty years have passed since that death, and he is still alive tenaciously, and he has the “second youth” of art, including translating the world famous “Ulysses” from English to Chinese.
Later, he wrote an article “Reflection on” Death “”, which summarized this experience very well.
If you have the idea of wanting to die again, look at Xiao Qian’s 30-year resurrection after “death”, and look at his profound knowledge of life. Do you still want to die?
Reason 12: For the person you love, you are not qualified to die. When you have the idea of suicide, it does not prevent you from thinking about those who you love and love, and the thought of your death will bring him (her).How much hurt and pain, especially your parents and family, do you still have the heart to cause it?
One woman chose to live bravely because she loved me, and that was my mother.
At that time I was less than one year old, and I was still at the age of breastfeeding in my mother’s arms.
The mother was aggrieved and was about to commit suicide by jumping into the river.
When the mother opened the door at night, I cried in bed.
My mother had to hurry back to coax me and saw that I fell asleep and went out again.
But when I opened the door again, I cried again.
She had to come back to coax me again.
I never imagined that when I opened the door for the third time, I burst into tears.
At this moment, the mother was sore and heartbroken: “It really does not change!
If you die, who will take care of this child!
“I don’t know what would happen to my life if my mother gave up so badly.
I thank my mother.
So please think about the relatives and friends around you, think about the blows and sorrows after they lose you, and live bravely for those you love and those who love you!
Reason 13: Don’t be afraid. Too many people who commit suicide by learning to use the support system are all overly introverted and restrained.
It was later discovered that in fact, the problems they encountered were actually not great, but because they closed their hearts tightly, they were unable to cope with those problems by their own abilities, and were finally overwhelmed by these problems.
Friends, relatives, etc. are your support system.
When we feel we can’t keep up, we have to learn to ask others for support.
Don’t be too strong, don’t feel that this is a manifestation of fragility and incompetence. Anyone has a moment of fragility, which is not a shame.
This is where you prove your bravery and maturity.
In addition, social service organizations are also an important support system.
At present, there are already many such institutions in some countries, such as the “Yellow Forged Belt Project” and “Lifeline”, which are all organizations that can help.
But relative to the needs of society, the social functions of these institutions need to be further strengthened.
In China, work in this area has just begun and needs to be strengthened.
Reason 14: Live on, and remember that some people ca n’t bear such a shock because of the sudden death of their dearest, and finally give up their lives.
This emotion is worth understanding, but it should also be understood: since things happen, you should accept them.
It is the best answer to your loved ones that you are good at living a good life.
Of course, you can also take some necessary commemorative ideas to talk to the soul of someone who has passed away to show that you will always love him or her.
This is “to live, and to remember.”
A major earthquake struck Chicago, and many people died.
Among them, a middle-aged woman, who was rescued from the collapsed house, knew that her husband and two children had been killed. Her grief prevented her from living, and she committed suicide once and was rescued again.
Later, in order to relieve her from pain, a senior asked her to write to heaven as if her husband and children were going to heaven for a business trip.
She reluctantly agreed and kept writing to them.
In the beginning, I just told myself how I missed them. Later, I started using the admonition: make my husband treat his children well.
Later, she could feel her husband and children’s admonition to herself: let her live, and live well! In the end, she finally turned her grief into a blessing, accepted the fact that her husband and child died, and started volunteering, so she found a reason to live.